Tuesday, May 26, 2015

Why Porn is not ok.

This isn't an easy topic to talk about. It's uncomfortable, but I'm writing this blog post in the hope that it may change the thinking of some friends who have told me about their porn addiction. I'm no expert on this topic, but I'd like to share my views anyway. 

Why isn't porn ok? 
I'm not a saint, I won't lie and tell you that I've never ever looked at porn. We are all of sinful nature and curiosity is what the devil uses to tempt us. The thing is, we can't just use the excuse "I'm human", yes I am human, but I'm also a follower of Christ Jesus.
Mathew 5:28 (ESV) 
"But I say to you that everyone that looks at a woman with lustfull intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart" 
Even though men are the ones being addressed in this bible verse, I believe it applies to women as well. Porn is lust, therefore it is sin, it isn't just a man problem. Lust feels great, but it is a temporary sin with full time consequences. Porn is distorted, it leads you into an self-centred, artificial world.

Christians, I will leave these questions for you to answer for yourselves: 
What are you going to do when you get married, and porn has been something that you have relied on for a long time, to satisfy yourself? What do you do with the sexual fantasies that porn has given you? Can you confidently say that you won't have crazy ideas of how your sex life with your spouse will pan out? What happens when you realise that you are disappointed that sex is nothing like the porn videos you have seen?

Sex is a wonderful thing, and it is to be shared between husband and wife. It isn't something you're perfect at from the first go, it takes practice. Porn may give you ideas, but it isn't realistic in the end. I don't know about other women, but if my Husband ever watched porn, I would feel like I'd been cheated on. I'd feel insecure, and worry about the sexual expectations he has of me. I would be terrified.

Please will you watch this video, it will only take up just over 5 minutes of your time. In case I haven't convinced you that you need to end your addiction, I truly hope this video does. It looks at a different aspect of the argument. 

Please leave your comments below. 

Tuesday, May 19, 2015

50 questions that will free your mind (questions and answers) -question twenty four

Question twenty four- 
Which is worse, when a good friend moves away, or loosing touch with a good friend that lives right near you? 

I would have to say the latter, because these days you can contact good friends vire Facebook and Skype etc.. Yeah I know it's not the same as being face to face, but it makes sense.
Loosing touch with a good friend makes me wonder if they really were a good friend.